When children are young, their friends are typically
chosen by their parents and they tend to just be happy to have a little
playmate without being emotionally invested in the relationship. As children
age, however, their friendships become more complex; they start to base
relationships on trust and greater intimacy. Although these relationships seem
more mature, they are still quite fluid and some issues will arise from time to
time. It’s important for parents to be ready for these little bumps in the road
and do their best to help their child get through it. Read on for some advice
from an independent school in
Hertfordshire.
First thing’s first, you must always make yourself available
to your child so that they feel they have someone to talk to. Make sure you
have one to one time with them on a regular basis so that they find it easy to
open up when they’re struggling with friendship problems. Don’t interrupt them
whilst they’re talking to you and instead just listen quietly and prompt them
with questions now and again. Only after they have finished talking should you
offer your advice. Certainly do not judge or criticise your child whilst they
are opening up to you, otherwise they will be reluctant to do it again.
Our children need positive relationships to enable
healthy development, but it’s important that you don’t try and ban certain
friends, even if you think they are bullies or a bad influence. This might
backfire and cause your child to rebel against you. Instead, encourage your
child to attend some extracurricular activities where they might meet some new
people who have similar interests to them. You should also always try to be a
good role model and show your child what good friendships are all about.
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