When they are little, it's easy to think about all they ways we look after our kids. We feed them, wash them and comfort them when they are sad. But what can we do for the as they get older and reach adulthood? Luckily, I have a while to go before I need to worry about my little one being a grown up, but it never hurts to start thinking about the future.
A significant way of looking after your kids, even when they are fully grown, is to offer them unconditional emotional support. Just because they are adults now doesn't mean they are not going to feel confused or sad at times and need some advice or comfort from their parents. It's critical to offer this with as few conditions as possible. This is because if you attach conditions to your love, your child may be reluctant to come to you for support. If you want a close relationship with you child into adulthood, provide unconditional love from an early age, you’ll be so grateful you did.
Don't expect them to do it your way
Of course, when you kids come to you for advice, you're going to give it. But don't always expect your adult children to deal with their problems in the way that you would. They are different people, in a different situation and are capable of making their decisions. Do not punish them or get offended, if they do not do what you tell them to do as an adult. Recognise that it is a strength, rather than a weakness and that they are finding their solutions to their problems.
If they come across difficulties.
If your grown-up kids come across particular challenges, it can be very tempting to panic and make the situation worse. Things like health issues, relationship problems or problems with the law, can stress parents out. Keeping a cool head in these situations is the best thing you can do to support your children. If they are unwell, research what they can do to improve their condition. If their relationship has broken down, offer them support and a place to stay if they need it. If they are having trouble with the law, help them to find a criminal lawyer to win their case.
Financial advice and support
The cost of living seems always to be on the increase. It can be an enormous strain on parents to help their grown-up children financially. Assistance is often needed for going to college, buying a house, or a first car. Of course, it is fantastic if you can support your adult children financially in these endeavors. But it's also a good idea to teach them to sound financial sense throughout their lives. A great way of doing this is to encourage them to get a job as they are growing up and to save their money. They can then invest it wisely. People that have spent the money can at a young age can quickly accumulate a comfortable nest egg on which to base the rest of their lives.